The Tattered and Torn Heart

As you look at the graphic above, we hope you capture the symbolism.  The tattered and torn cardboard heart represents what all of us Christians have already experienced or will experience… “many trials and sorrows” (John 16:33).  The stitching represents the ministry work that is offered through Keystone Church.  The Bible represents…  the Bible.  We show it because the counseling we offer here is radically different than most other counseling, even most Christian counseling.  It is Biblical Counseling.  But the difference is way more than just that we use the Bible…


Biblical Counseling Distinctives

  • We believe that lasting change comes from focusing more on the heart (our desires, passions, fears, affections, purposes) than on our circumstances and behavior (Luke 6:45).
  • We are dependent on God to do the heart change, so we see prayer as a necessary, beneficial, and effective component.   
  • We show love and compassion as Jesus does.
  • But we also speak biblical truth as Jesus does, in love.
  • We believe that there is a confident hope for any difficult situation and that hope is found in Jesus Christ (2 Peter 1:3-4).
  • Although we are sympathetic to suffering, we believe that we can actually have joy in it because of the perfection that it leads to (James 1:2-3).
  • There is great emphasis on how we see ourselves… our identity… who we are in Christ (Galatians 2:20). 
  • Through the Gospel, and fully grasping our new identity, we believe that it is possible to experience the fruit of the spirit… love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (Galatians 5:22-23), even in difficult circumstances.  

Reading back over the fruit of the spirit, you may be recognizing that you don’t exhibit all those characteristics, but would like to.  How can you get help?  Please read on…


CARE Groups

CARE Groups
are one of the best places for counseling because of the close relationships that are usually established there.  While offering empathy, sympathy, and support to a brother or sister in turmoil, kind words of truth about possible heart change can be offered and received in love.


What happens if I want to get help beyond the CARE Group?

There are some more serious situations in which the CARE Groups may not feel equipped to handle.  In those situations, we encourage you to contact Pastor Charlie for pastoral counseling.  Either he or Pastor Keith will meet with you to understand your situation, and any of the following could happen:

  1. We may solve the concern in that first meeting. 
  2. We may recommend various resources to use such as books, articles, devotionals, CCEF booklets, bible studies, podcasts, etc. 
  3. We may recommend participation in an ABF, a Bible Study, a CARE Group, or some type of support group inside or outside the church. 
  4. We may recommend one on one discipleship/mentoring with someone of the same gender in the church.  Or couple to couple discipleship/mentoring with another couple in the church.
  5. If it is determined that further professional counseling is needed, the next step depends on your gender, mainly because our church leadership sees the potential danger of men meeting one on one with women. 
    1. If a male… we may recommend that you meet with Pastor Charlie or Pastor Keith.
    2. If a female… we may recommend that you meet with Betsy O’Donoghue, a private contract counselor, who is now meeting with counselees in our ministry center. 
    3. If a couple… we have the option of either of the above. 


Betsy O’Donoghue – our contract counselor

We believe Betsy is one of the best female biblical counselors in the area.  Keystone has referred ladies to her for many years with tremendous results, but the problem has been how far counselees had to drive for the counseling.  Now, Betsy has agreed to counsel people from Keystone in our facility.  She has a Ph.D. in Biblical Counseling and a D.Min. in Conflict Management.  Although she is not on staff at Keystone, and practices independently as a private counselor, we have worked out a cooperative relationship with her so that many from Keystone can now benefit from her counseling ministry work.  Her fees are very reasonable, and the church is willing to help cover those fees.  Contact Pastor Charlie for specifics.